Tree of Life: Where Healing Begins

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“We pray for healing of the body.

We pray for healing of the soul.

For strength of flesh and mind and spirit.

We pray to once again be whole.”

These are words that resonate deeply with my soul.

I’m sure that we were all both shocked and horrified when we learned that a lone gunman had walked into the Tree of Life synagogue near Pittsburgh, PA on Saturday morning and had opened fire on innocent worshipers who had gathered there on the Sabbath. The story of what happened quickly moved to the center of the daily news. Eleven of the worshipers, ranging in age from 54 to 97, were killed almost instantly as the police, emergency teams, SWAT teams and the FBI mobilized and quickly traveled to the scene. The gunman, who was later wounded in a shoot-out with the police, surrendered and was quickly removed from the scene. And our journey into the “unspeakable” began.

I learned, many years ago, that there are times when our words can’t fix things.

What do you say to a mother who has just watched her child die? What do you say to the loved ones of someone who decides that life cannot be endured for another day and who then ends it? What do you say to the families of eleven innocent people who were killed while worshiping in a synagogue by a man who ran into the building with guns in his hands and screaming, “All Jews must die!”? What do you say to a community filled with people who trusted in the fact that senseless slaughters always happen somewhere else?

I learned, many years ago, that God didn’t give me any magic fairy dust.

The events that unfolded at the Tree of Life synagogue near Pittsburgh dragged me back in time to a very different – yet hauntingly similar – event that I faced several years ago. I was preparing to begin another busy Wednesday in Lent when my cellphone beeped and alerted me to the fact that a young man had walked into the Franklin Regional High School (about five miles from my home) with two knives in his hands and had stabbed twenty people (click here to learn more) before being tackled. I was speechless. I felt both paralyzed and numbed as I stared at the screen of my television; and yet, I wanted to do something helpful. I suspect that many folks felt that same paralysis on Saturday. When senseless tragedies unfold, we stare blankly at our television sets and watch first responders rise to the occasion. We want to shut the news off and return to our more normal routines, but we can’t. Senseless violence changes us. We sense a solidarity with all of humanity when the lives of innocent people are ended by violent outbursts of anger. We, perhaps, sense our need for human community when violence drives us into isolation. But what then? What do we do in the days and weeks that follow senseless tragedies? How can we begin to take the first steps forward after we’ve been paralyzed by senseless violence?

Here are some things that I learned as I moved through the difficult days and weeks and months that followed the violent outburst at the Franklin Regional High School. And I offer these ideas hoping that they’ll be helpful to you:

  1. I learned that, in times of shock and horror, we need to take care of ourselves. In the Beginning, God said that it’s “not good” for us to be alone (Genesis 2:18) and that’s especially true when we’re struggling. We need each other, and we need to gather in community with other people as we try to make sense of violent acts that change our lives. I remember gathering with people at Christ’s Lutheran Church in Murrysville, PA on the evening of the incident at Franklin Regional High School. We sang hymns together and prayed. We listened to the words of Scripture, and we spent time together. My wife and I did the same thing yesterday. We attended a gathering of several hundred people at Temple David in Monroeville; and we mourned with Jews and Muslims and Christians alike. We were reminded that we must not allow hatred and bigotry to win. We were reminded that we are people who can make a lasting difference in our world by committing ourselves to the path of love and deeper understanding.
  2. I learned that, in times of shock and horror, we need to watch the helpers. I find it quite ironic that the violent outburst at the Tree of Life synagogue unfolded in the same neighborhood that once provided a home for Fred Rogers. I grew-up in the Pittsburgh area and Mr. Rogers was a part of my childhood. I still remember his friendly smile. I still remember him changing his shoes and putting his sweater on at the beginning of each show. But, perhaps even more than that, I remember Mr. Rogers’ kindness and embrace of others. Fred Rogers once said (or at least we are told that he said) that, when bad things happen, we need to watch and to focus upon what the helpers are doing. The world is full of good people. The world is full of people who care about each other and who want to help each other. Think about the first responders and the police officers who were wounded when they rushed into the synagogue. Think about all of the doctors and nurses who rushed to the hospital, so that they would be ready to treat the wounded. Think of the people who will walk beside the families of those who were killed in the weeks and months ahead – often unseen and unnoticed. We can all learn a lesson from Mr. Rogers; because, even in times of unspeakable tragedy, good people gather and help.
  3. I learned that, in times of shock and horror, we need to be willing to listen to what people are saying – even when we hear things that make us feel uncomfortable. I listened to stories from the lips of many young people who were being bullied at school in the weeks and months that followed the incident at the Franklin Regional High School – and it all began when I sat down with a small group of teenagers and said, “When I was your age, bullies flicked your ears and shot spit balls at you. I don’t know what bullying looks like today. Will you help me to understand?” When we listen, we learn. I’ve believed that those who are suffering are my teachers for a long, long time. I’ve been given a small glimpse of what it’s like to lose a child, to face a terminal illness, and to say goodbye to your spouse. I’ve learned a bit about bullying by listening to teenagers tell me about their lives. Perhaps, this is a time when we need to listen to people share stories about Anti-Semitism, racism, bigotry and hatred? Perhaps, this is a time when we need to allow people who are usually silent to speak? I was once told that God gave me two ears and one mouth for a very good reason. We need to remember that in times like these.
  4. And lastly, I learned that, in times of shock and horror, we can begin to turn the corner and step away from feelings of powerlessness by helping. In the weeks and months after the violent incident at Franklin Regional High School, the good and always-faithful people at Christ’s Lutheran Church collected money that was used to pay medical bills, to financially support parents who needed to quit their jobs to care for their teenagers, and to provide resiliency training for local teachers. We were told, yesterday, that the Muslim community is collecting money to help pay medical bills and funeral expenses and to bring financial relief to those who have already faced so much. I found that becoming a helper was even more empowering than watching helpers. If you’d like to help the families of those who have already faced so much because of the horrific attack at the Tree of Life synagogue

CLICK HERE

My wife and I joined hundreds of others singing powerful words of prayer during the gathering at Temple David in Monroeville yesterday; and, as I close, I’d like to lift those words before you:

“We pray for healing of our people.

We pray for healing of the land.

And peace for ev’ry race and nation,

Ev’ry child, ev’ry woman, ev’ry man.”

 

Christian Emissions Standards

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Mark 7:1-8, 14-15, 21-23

I began my career as a Chemical Engineer.

I helped to design pilot plants – smaller versions of chemical plants that would be built in the future. I worked beside a computer programmer every day, and our daily task was to write and utilize computer programs that simulated what would happen as chemicals traveled through a chemical plant – so that we could accurately predict what would come out of the plant based upon what we put into it. And that was always important to me.

I remember my parents taking my sisters and I down to the McDonalds in Baden, PA and watching orange dust from the steel mill across the river settle onto our car as we ate our cheeseburgers. I remember the brown hillside behind the lead smelter where I worked – totally devoid of vegetation because all of the plants and trees had been killed by the chemicals that had been spewed from our plant for decades. And that’s why I became “environmentally conscious” long before many other people even cared.
But now, people talk about the environment all the time, don’t they?

We are concerned about what comes out the tailpipes of our cars, and many people want us to stop mining and burning coal. We buy energy-efficient light bulbs, and we talk about the irreparable damage that could be done to the Boundary Waters in Minnesota if mining companies are permitted to take-over a pristine, untamed wilderness. We talk about animals (like the black rhinoceros) becoming extinct, and stories about carbon dioxide levels in the atmosphere fill the news. And that’s good. I think that it’s good for us to watch what we are doing and to remember that God has placed us on the face of this earth to take care of it – not to just consume it.
Jesus was concerned about “emissions standards,” too!

There is nothing outside a person that by going in can defile,” Jesus says, “but the things that come out of us are what make us unclean in the eyes of God.” (Mark 7:15)The things that we take into our bodies are not the things in life that make us unclean in the eyes of the Lord,” Jesus says. “What makes us unclean in God’s eyes are all of the things that come out of our hearts and, then, out of our mouths.
According to Jesus, Christians need “emissions standards.”

How many times do we all hear faithful Christians swearing and using vulgar language when they are speaking with each other? How many times have we used our own tongue to spread gossip, to talk about people behind their backs, and to speak to each other in unhelpful ways? How often do we find ourselves attacking people that we haven’t even met on social media? I suspect that we’ve all let words fly from our lips – or from the tips of our fingers – and suddenly wished that we could take them back. But it’s often too late for that, isn’t it?

In this week’s message, “Christian Emissions Standards”, we explore what it means to be good stewards of our language. St. James once wrote, “Let everyone be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to anger; for, your anger does not produce the righteousness of God.” (James 1:19b-20) James further writes, “If any of you think that you are righteous and do not bridle your tongue, you just deceive your hearts and your religion is worthless.” (James 1:26)

How would our lives be changed if we more carefully chose our words, so that we spoke to others in encouraging and up-building ways more consistently? How would our lives – and our country – be changed if we became as concerned about what comes out of our mouths – and off the tips of our fingers – as we are about what comes out of smokestacks at chemical plants?

We can protect our environment by bridling our tongues and by being more careful about what we post on social media. We need to remember that we don’t have to enter every debate and every argument. Sometimes, it’s best for us to say absolutely nothing than to say what we think in a way that hurts people.

How can we use our voice – and the words that we type on our computer screens – to foster deeper understandings, to call forth the best in each other, and to “be doers of the word and not merely hearers who deceive themselves“? (James 1:22)

Perhaps, in an age of increasingly divisive rhetoric and ugly arguments that end life-long friendships, one of the best things we can do is become better stewards of our language – by watching what comes out of our mouths more carefully – and by being just as careful about the words that emerge from our fingertips as we leave messages on social media?

When Storms Arise

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When times are tough and storms arise,

I thank God that the path toward the future isn’t paved

with only my own inner strength and courage.

God is Mighty!

And the Lord who holds me in the palm of His hand

has the power to carry me safely

toward better days.

 

© 2017 Wayne G. Gillespie

Take a stand against abuse!

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Genesis 2:18

Most people believe that God created the world to be a place that was entirely good, and that everything fell apart when Adam and Eve went astray. God pauses at the end of each day of creation in the first chapter of Genesis and says, “Wow! That’s good!” The same thing happens each day – culminating in God’s recognition of the fact that everything is “very good” on the sixth day. And then, many of us have been taught, everything fell apart when Adam and Eve ate the forbidden fruit.

However, we find another truth buried in the second chapter of Genesis where God says: “It is not good for the man to be alone.” “It is not good” for us to live in isolation. We are most complete when we are in fellowship with others. Isolation stands at the heart of what God identified as being “not good” in the story of creation.

Domestic and sexual abuse isolate. People who are being abused often withdraw from significant relationships. Women and men who are sexually assaulted often withdraw into deep, isolating silence. Domestic and sexual abuse create what God has clearly said is “not good” in the lives of His people. And, in that breaking of human community, abusers create something very different than what God plans for our lives.

We commit ourselves to helping our world to grow toward what God first intended when we promise to stand against domestic and sexual abuse; and we participate in God’s redemption of Creation when we commit ourselves to standing against behaviors that strip dignity from the lives of God’s people and drive them into isolation that “is not good” in God’s eyes.

Binding and Loosing

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I suspect that we all have times when we need to forgive.

People get hurt when other people speak or act too quickly. We’ve all had times when we have been offended by people that we know, or by people that we don’t know. We even have times in our live when we hurt ourselves by getting too puffed-up, or by thinking less of ourselves than we ought. We need to be forgiven by God and by other people, but we also have times when we’re the ones who need to forgive. And sometimes it’s easy – but sometimes it’s very hard.

In this week’s message, “Binding and Loosing”, we explore the fact that Jesus never said that forgiveness must always be offered quickly. Forgiveness and reconciliation are gifts that we offer to people who have hurt us, but they are also gifts that need to be extended in the “appropriate” time and in the “appropriate” way.

Forgiveness is NOT saying that what people did is no longer important and that it can simply be forgotten. The “Dance of Forgiveness” happens when the peace of Christ fills our hearts and when the breath of Jesus fills our souls. The “Dance of Forgiveness” happens when we get to the point in our lives when we’re able to release the hurt that we feel, and when we can honestly and authentically ask ourselves what must happen in order for reconciliation to occur.

Blessings!

God’s Taking Us to Court!

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Have you ever thought about what would happen if God took us to court?

A lot of us believe that “good” people go to Heaven and “bad” people go to Hell. A lot of us probably picture God sitting on a great, big throne in the sky – always keeping an eye on us and making a list of “good things” and “bad things” that He sees us doing, so that He can judge our “worthiness” to enter Heaven after we die.

But, have you ever thought about the fact that God speaks to us and tries to point us in the right direction when we fly off course, right now? Have you ever thought about the fact that the Holy Bible, the “Sacred Story” of God’s journey with His people, is part of a story that’s continuing to unfold even now? We can find ourselves in the midst of the Exodus during times of dramatic change and transition. We can learn how to live with faith, in a world where God’s grace is often only sufficient for today, when we find ourselves in the “Sacred Story” of people who trusted that God would provide “manna” in the Wilderness each day. The “Sacred Story” we find in the Holy Bible is OUR story. The “Sacred Story” we find in the Bible is not just a story about historic events that happened long ago. It’s the story of OUR journey. It’s the story of OUR struggle to make sense of what it means to live our lives with faith in changing (and sometimes scary) times. The “Sacred Story” that we find in the Bible is the story of OUR continuing relationship with the Risen Christ, who came into the world to set us free from the power of sin and to raise us up to a new life.

In this week’s message, “God’s Taking Us to Court!”, we find ourselves in the midst of a courtroom. The prophet tells us that God’s taking us to court! We listen to God’s clear and pointed testimony. We hear the “Sacred Story” of God’s continuing love. And, as we are drawn into that “Sacred Story,” God challenges us to think about how we treat people who are hungry; how we respond to people who are addicted to drugs and alcohol; how we respond to the cries of refugees who are fleeing from their homes and countries to escape certain death; how we treat people who are being victimized by domestic violence, child trafficking, our inability to forgive, and “systems of power” that trap them in poverty, homelessness, fear and uncertainty.

This is a challenging message, but it’s a message that will speak to your heart. It’s a message that will remind you that YOU are a part of the “Sacred Story” that God’s been writing since the beginning of time. Perhaps, you’ll hear a Word that challenges you to be more forgiving and embracing? Perhaps, you’ll hear a Word from God that challenges the ways you think about people who are less fortunate than you are? Perhaps, God will speak to you in a different way and help you to discover a new and life-giving way to respond to the “Sacred Story” of God’s faithfulness in your own daily life?

Blessings!

When Times are Tough

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When times are tough and storms arise,

I thank God that the path to the future isn’t paved

with only my own inner strength and courage.

God is Mighty!

The One who holds me in the palm of His hand

has the power and the ability to carry me

in safety toward better days.

© 2016 Wayne Gillespie

When Relationships Become Difficult

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Relationships aren’t always easy, are they?

In the very beginning, God clearly said that it’s not good for us to live our lives in isolation (Genesis 2:18). The Bible tells us that God’s given us the gift of one another, and that God is profoundly present when people come together (Matthew 18:20) and form “community” with each other. Our families and relationships are a gift of God. God brings us together to encourage each other and build each other up (Hebrews 10:24), and to comfort one another when life is hard (2 Corinthians 1:4). But that doesn’t mean that relationships are always going to be easy, and that we will never move through difficult times with others.

Through the years, I’ve noticed that many of us tend to move in unhelpful directions when our relationships with other people begin to suffer. We begin to notice “little things” that bother us, and we sometimes blow those things totally out of proportion. Words written in anger can be sent to other people with a single keystroke. It’s easy for us to forget that we are talking with “real people” on social media. We stop listening to each other. We begin to think about how we are going to respond to what other people are saying before we take time to listen to what they’ve actually said. Lin Yutang, the great writer and linguist, once quoted a famous Chinese proverb when he wrote: “You know that the sun is surely setting when small things begin to cast long shadows.” And that’s really true, isn’t it? When we begin to view the words and actions of other people through glasses that are tinted by our misunderstandings and frustrations, relationships begin to fade and disappear.

So, what can we do when relationships become difficult?

First, we need to get past the idea that our discomfort is bad. Many people want to simply “move on” and “get over it” because they’re uncomfortable and want the angst that they are experiencing to go away. Many people expect other folks to simply “move on” and “get over it,” too. It’s not easy to move through times of conflict. It’s not easy for any of us to simply stop and to feel the raw emotions that we experience when we’re struggling with others. But we need to remember that our discomfort isn’t bad. Our emotions and our feelings are an important part of our lives; and, when we’re willing to “sit with” our own feelings and emotions long enough, we’ll discover that they’re telling us that something needs to change. And that’s OK. In fact, it’s authentic.

Second, we need to be willing to listen and to speak with honesty and integrity. Words are important. We can’t read each others’ minds and we need to understand that other people can’t read our minds, either. People who listen to each other and who speak to each other with honesty and integrity can come to deeper understandings. Angst can be caused when we misinterpret the thoughts and intentions of other people. Relationships begin to fall apart when little things are blown out of proportion. When our relationships with other people are moving through tough times, we need to find a way to simply stop and openly talk with each other. Many relationships suffer and move through difficult times because of simple misunderstandings. Take some time to listen. Speak honestly about what you are feeling and why you are feeling that way. The restoration of relationships often only begins when people begin to listen to each other and speak with each other in ways that are filled with honesty and integrity.

Third, we need to be willing to confess the hurtful things that we’ve done and we need to allow other people to confess the hurtful things that they’ve done. When relationships deteriorate, people don’t always treat each other kindly. Words are uttered that should have never been spoken. Emails and text messages are sent in moments of rage. Many of our social media sites contain unhelpful comments. We’ve all spoken words that we wish we’d never said. And that kind of honest and open admission leaves us with an important question: Can we use the ungracious and regrettable words and moments in our own lives to better understand the ungracious and regrettable words and moments in other people’s lives? Other people are no more perfect than we are. We all have times when we shine with the light of Christ (Matthew 5:16), and we all have times when we fail (Romans 3:10). Can we openly admit that to one another? When we learn to honestly and authentically speak with each other about what’s most broken in our relationships, we begin to heal. It may be uncomfortable, but we need to talk about the “elephant in the room.”

Fourth, we need to be willing to ask for forgiveness from God and from other people. This is not always easy. The Bible tells us that when we confess our sins, God forgives us and sends us away as “new” people (1 John 1:9). But, it’s far more difficult in our relationships with other people. We do not have the “right” to demand forgiveness from others, and we do not have the “right” to demand that people forgive those who have hurt them. When people are hurt, relationships change and the road to total restoration may no longer exist. A fine, china plate that’s dropped onto the floor and that’s shattered, can be repaired – but it will never be what it once was. And that’s OK. God continues to welcome and embrace us – even when we’re finding it hard to forgive other people. When we ask people to forgive us, we need to realize that they might not be able to do it, yet. Forgiveness takes time. It’s a lot easier to damage a relationship than to heal one. We can confess the things that we have done to damage our relationship with another person and ask that person to forgive us, but we need to understand that the decision to forgive rests in the hands of the other person. The process of forgiving others doesn’t always happen as quickly as we’d like, and we have no “right” to demand that it happen more swiftly.

Fifth, we need to embrace the idea that a faithful response to difficult relationships in our lives may include walking away. Christians talk about forgiveness and reconciliation; but, Christians also need to remember that, when relationships become totally unmanageable, the most faithful path forward may include permanent separation (Titus 3:10). God does not demand that we continue to live in abusive relationships where we feel threatened and unsafe. Our lives are not enhanced through our continuing participation in the unbending relationships where we find ourselves being drawn into circular arguments and unhelpful exchanges. We need to realize that it’s not “unchristian” to walk away from people that we know on social media – or even in our church. We must continue to teach our teenagers (and to remind ourselves) that when relationships move in unhelpful directions, it’s OK for us to say “Goodbye.” God creates “community” and brings other people into our lives to encourage us, build us up and spur us on (Hebrews 10:24). When that’s not happening, it’s often helpful to simply withdraw and walk away for the sake of our own wellness.

I suspect that relationships will never be easy. But, with God’s help, we will all find people who can enrich our lives and who can help us to better-understand God’s plan for our lives and our futures. I hope that you’ll find these suggestions helpful as you continue to share your life with other people, and that you’ll return to these truths often as you continue to share your life with people who are no more perfect than you are.

Blessings!

 

Not sure what’s best?

I’m really excited to tell you about a new link on the Home Page of the ExploraStory Cafe called: “Tackling Tough Stuff.”

We all face challenges and difficult situations in life, don’t we? We all have those moments in life when we’re not sure what’s best. That’s what “Tackling Tough Stuff” is all about! In fact, if you click the “Tackling Tough Stuff” link, you’re going to find the following:

Bullying: What Teens Taught Me After an Incident of School Violence

How to Respond When Someone Tells You About Childhood Sexual Abuse

How Can I Support a Grieving Friend During and After a Funeral?

I hope that the audio files I’ve created can provide guidance and insight into some of the challenges and difficult situations that we encounter in life. And, as always, if you have a topic that you would like us to take-up in the ExploraStory Cafe, please let me know!

Blessings!